i posted on here about my sister in law dating a guy 12 years younger then her. well it ended just the way i thought it would very messy. all he wanted was to have a very sexy older women to brag about to his freinds . all the time hes was dating her he was going out with someone else.i new in the begaining all he wanted was the sex and as soon as she gave in and gave it up he was gone like a bullet.now she heart broken cus she thinks she did something wrong.they dated 2 1/2 months and its over.well he has a texas size beaten coming for breaken her heart and leading her on just for a few minutes.now for the rest of her life she has to deal with the trust issue with men . what he did was so un cool in my ply book.if u have to lie / cheat / to get some then ur no real man.things like this is why i am so over protective of my baby sis in law "favorite sis n law".i dont know who i am more pssst at me, fore trying to give her space and keeping my words to my self or him fore messing up a really good thing.i guess he was to young to see how good of a women / mother she is.thanks for reading. o.c.p

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Sorry to hear the news. It is true that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, not to mention wiser! Time will heal the hurt. You did nothing wrong by giving her space. I know it hurts you to see her get hurt but I believe it takes some failed relationships to appreciate the best ones. If she is half the person you say she is, she will have plenty to choose from.

It doesn't make what he did any easier to take but its better that she wasn't seeing him for 12 months or longer! By the time summer rolls around she will have forgotten about this.

i hope ur right. and she is.its just getting her out there to try again.

So sorry he turned out to be such an ass. Guess the age difference thing isn't an issue only when they are both mature individuals. This creep is obviously still too young to appreciate a good thing when he sees it! I wish her the best! And good riddance to bad rubbish!

You learn a lot of things in life and one of them is that "age truly is a number". My wife's ex husband is a total tool. Terrible father, financial mess, was a crappy husband and just is a wreck in general who has no direction or stability in his life. He is 50 years old this June. I'm only 31 and my wife and I will have been married 6 years come July.

He is older than my Mother and a year younger than my Dad. LOL My wife is 9 years older than I am and is still a hot MILF! I'm mature, kind hearted and a good father and husband. We truly feel we are soulmates, her being 9 years older is a non-issue. So its all about the person, not necessarily their age. Although with age comes wisdom and experience....doesn't seem to have worked for her ex though???

Sorry she got taken advantage of like that. I always thought guys like that were douchebags (excuse my language). Whats funny is one of my buddies teased me about dating an older woman with 2 kids. Not long after we got married he met the woman of his life and they have been together for over 5 years and she is 12 years older than him. Plus my cousin, the one who was our pastor and married us, is getting married himself this October. His bride to be is 8 years older and has a child as well.

Maybe we just got some good guys who know how to treat ladies in our area??? Anyways, give her my best and let her know there are plenty of great guys out there. Sorry she had such a bad experience. She will recover and learn, which is the best thing she can do! Meeting my wife and gaining the love of two kids and bringing another of ours into this world has been the greatest thing to ever happen to me.

Kenny

..I can attest to Kb's wife...she is a hottie... you almost have to chalk this all up to life's experiences and lessons. And hope that she can look at this and learn from it. I went through life like this before finally finding mine (soulmate)...I went through relationships and learned from each one of them (and I've been through quite a few).. finally re-married at 43 years young...

she is more then a little depressed but she is slowly getting better i am helping any way i can think of. like i said before she was married once before and was a year younger then her but he was a moms boy and he would not tell her to butt out of there life and i now that was the problem in that marrage.my gut is never rong if the perants on both sides would have left them alone it would have lasted. her perants had me my wife fighting for the first 6months we were married intell i figured out the what they were doing and i told them where the could put it .14 years latter they would not say crap to me if the had a mouth full of it.so i know that between both sides perants thats why her first one did not last. this last guy was just to imature to be with any women. he is like 19 and she like 31 if he was older and still had a 12 year gap between them there may not have been to much problem but my gut says at any age he would be a strait peice of crap. i dont have a problem with the age differance of 12 years its that he is to imature to be invaled with a female at all. boys i promise u this if there is another man that comes a callenj am going to tell her what i really think of him good or bad.i have learned from my mistake of not open my mouth sooner. i am not the kind of man to poke my nose it other peoples biss. but for sake i am going to have to do it for her.she trusts my judgement on everything.i am a salemen and i am a very good judge of people.if she didnt listen then i have at least tryed to help instead of holding my words.i am from texas i still would have to hurt him . if i wasnt 1500 miles from her my fist would luv to have the chance to explained things in a way he could understand.i know fighting is not always the answer but i think this time it is at least part of the answer.if not it would make me feel better. thanks 4 reading ocp