my sis in law is dating a guy that is 12 years younger then she is.she has a girl that is 8 years old .from her first and only hubby.he was 2 years younger then her which was cool with most of us. her old hubby and the new boy freind are the same age just nine years latter.she has not really dated anybody in all the years i have been her brother in law. it just seams wrong some how. i know she can do way the fuck better if she just looked. and i know she has'nt. i want her to be happy but i dont know about him. why such in age differants " Any thoughts ladys"

Once someone is out of high school, age becomes irrelavant. You are only as old as you feel. I have known 5 couples, second marriage for all the ladies, where the lady married a younger man. The biggest age difference is 17 yrs. They have been married several years. Don't be as much concerned about the age factor as the character of the person involved! As "beauty is in the eye of the beholder", maybe age is, too.

Just my thoughts on the subject.

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As "beauty is in the eye of the beholder",

In some cases it the beer holder. Age doesn't matter after you grow up. Either way. It's what ever makes a person happy. For a mature woman that has had a bad experience maybe she wants one young enough to not have bad habits.

i under stand all the age and beauty thing after a certen age. he is just a kid. he is like 18 and she is 30. if he was 28 and she was 40 i would not see a problem. he has not lived so to speak and has nothen to bring to the relationship . i dont know maybe i am looken at it the wrong way . the weird part is that her brother is dating the boys mother." maybe i am to old to see the atraction. thank you for your input.

OCP, just wanted to say I really like your nickname!

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i dont know maybe i am looken at it the wrong way . the weird part is that her brother is dating the boys mother.

that crossed the weird line for me. I can see your concern now.

k.. I though my situation was weird.. if she is happy I guess there is really nothing to worry about...yes he hasnt really lived and maybe right now she needs someone who hasnt.. does he treat her good??? is he good to her daughter??? that is all that really matters in my eyes and that my dears is my 2 dents LOL

please understand i want her to be the happiest she can be.i just dont want her to rush in to anything like last time!!! i dont know they are together they live 1300 hundred miles from us for know. we bought a house a cross the streat from her for a winter home but, have not got a round to moving down there . it will be this summer before we start moving some things down there for the following winter. we will be down often enough this summer to see how they are to gether. i know in the few months they have dated he has not bought any thing for her birthday or valentines day they were a week a part.she is pretty pissed about that. i guess i am a little over protective of my favorite sis- in -law. but i have came to concluesion that i am not going to make waves if there is know reason to do so. everbodys thought have helped shed some light to a dark room. thank you again for your thoughts on the subject. thanks from O .C .P. and hemi girl

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i know in the few months they have dated he has not bought any thing for her birthday or valentines day they were a week a part.she is pretty pissed about that.

Doesn't sound like he cares that much for her. Maybe your gut instincts are right and he's just a leach.
It's a shame you aren't close enough to see for yourself...maybe have a heart to heart talk..or beat the crap out of him if need be.